I'm sorry about the pains. That must be very hard to deal with. What has worked with me is to institutionalize the kiss. It started about 10 months ago, my husband came over to my side of the bed one morning to kiss me goodbye before he went to work. I was very surprised, and he said he was doing it as a 180 to see if it made our relationship better. (OF course it did.) So then about 6 months ago I started making a point of kissing him hello when he walked in the door. Again, there was a little conversation the first time because it felt awkward. But that has gotten to be a habit. Now just this week, he rolled over to go to sleep and I said, "Don't you want a goodnight kiss?" So we kissed, and it was awkward. But the next time will be more comfortable because he'll be expecting it. So just let her know that it is a normal part of the day, the goodnight kiss, the goodmorning kiss, the hello kiss, whatever.
Yes you are right. We used to be that way.. When we slept in the same bed Every morning I would give her a kiss on the forehead (she was sleeping) every night a good night kiss... and every time I left the house a good by kiss.. So I am going to work my way back to there... I must admit I am going to keep this posative but....there is that little voice still that thinks maybe she does not want this.... I am not lisenig to the voice yet.... I want to build a little on our R before I go away and then when I get back we will sit down and have a face to face talk... No letters....
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
You know what H, that little voice inside is a what you have to ignore. I have one when it comes to work. Sometimes I hear it say, "Don't bother calling that person again, they don't want to buy a house." And then I tell myself it's only a phone call, it will take one minute, just do it. And sometimes when I do it, that person comes out and buys a house. I don't know why we have that voice that pushes us to snatch failure from the jaws of victory, but we do. Just keep fighting it. that voice is your enemy.
Had a real bad night. The pain's in my leg kept waking me up plus I had a bad nightmare... Wife was through with OM in Washington but found another local. That is where she has been going when she says she is going to the gym or store or where ever...The OM even had a name. Can’t think if it now but it was one of those so real dreams...
I have a question... Choc talked about "love darts” I guess they are just statements about feelings that you say to your spouse and then walk away.....Like...”ya know With all this stuff going on it is really hard for me to trust you now." or "Ever thought how you would feel if I cheated on you?".. I may have miss-understood his concept but have any of you tried this approach? Or should I just keep planning my "vacation" and let the sleeping dog lie.... Ok no kiss or hugs last night... I was hurting to much (Physically) and then W was really wrapped up helping son with his math. Son had an attitude so W was not in a good mood....
A positive (I think). It has been cold here and we have this electric oil radiator heater that works pretty well. It has been in my (our) bed room because that is the coldest place in the house. (In more ways that one)... but anyway a few days ago I suggested to W that she move it into her "office" during the day to keep her warm... Yesterday when I got home it was in her office but before I went to bed she rolled it back to my (our) bedroom and had turned it on to warm up the bedroom. (I could have thought of a better way but....)So this is a positive right? She could have just put it back and left it off.
Ok another day has arrived... took my meds, trying to stay away from them because they tend to make my mind wander into negative territory... Off to check my scope
Bye
Husband The Dr of love...
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
A positive (I think). It has been cold here and we have this electric oil radiator heater that works pretty well. It has been in my (our) bed room because that is the coldest place in the house. (In more ways that one)... but anyway a few days ago I suggested to W that she move it into her "office" during the day to keep her warm... Yesterday when I got home it was in her office but before I went to bed she rolled it back to my (our) bedroom and had turned it on to warm up the bedroom. (I could have thought of a better way but....)So this is a positive right? She could have just put it back and left it off.
Good for you...sounds like a positive to me! I don't know if she was looking for it, or if you did it or not...but a little "thank you, that was sweet" kind of thing to her can go a long ways.
As far as the "love darts"...I'd be real careful with them, how you word them, and how you use them. I feel they have their place, but if taken the wrong way, they could lead to resentment towards you on her part...just be careful.
Sorry to hear about the leg pain. I hope today is better for ya.
As far as the "love darts"...I'd be real careful with them, how you word them, and how you use them. I feel they have their place, but if taken the wrong way, they could lead to resentment towards you on her part...just be careful.
Agreed IC, I don't want to use something I do not totaly understand. Thanks about my leg, It does not happen all of the time. The cold weather some times cause it or if I am comming down with a cold. I'm doing good so far today. Another positive... W kept asking about my pain, when did it start? have you taken your meds? If you don't want to take meds have a shot of JD.
so that is good...staying home tonight but may go out sat. with Nephew to play pool.. we will see..
Later gater H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
