Please help me!! My wife wants out!

[steve477]

The only saving grace for me as far as the images go, is that I asked her about the details.
I asked her how it was... her answer was `i dont know`, I said `what do you mean you dont know?`, she replied that it all was just so quick to finish! So whilst I am hurting alot about this, I dont need to worry about him being better than me. Haha. On a serious note, I am sure that they are continueing an EA, but not going to have sex again. They are probably still hugging and possibly still kissing, but I think that it might be in the back of my Ws mind that he could be using her. And she wont like that thought, she will push that thought away most of the time, but it is there. She admits that this guy is going through a midlife crisis, and she admits that she would be a nice trophy for him, if he was using her. He has told her before that he knows the guys in a different department think she is nice/sexy. I just hope he didnt tell anyone about her. If he hurts her then I will really break his legs!

Feeling calmer today. Hope it lasts. W and I will go to the cinema tonight. Might try to eat out as well.

I am trying to act happy, sometimes I actually feel happy. Last week we were kind of flirting a little because I wanted to kiss her, but she was playing (very) hard to get. Nothing came of it. She says she doesnt want to kiss me as she thinks I will be able to feel there is no feeling behind her kiss, so she doesnt want me to be upset. I can wait. Then the next night we had R talks and things went sour. So I have been slowly trying to build back up to that mood between us again.

I have been being quite attentive. Partly because of the fact that she is pregnant. Making breakfasts and cleaning up. She has made most of the dinners recently, because she prefers her stuff at the moment. I dont mind as she is a great cook. Then we watch TV, maybe an episode of 24 while we eat, then I wash the dishes while she gets ready for bed. Then I go upstairs, we say our goodnights and retire to our separate rooms. I have now been able to stop going into her room after she closes the door. I always knock on every door now.

I am trying to do a 180, by not talking so much, as I usually have a motor mouth. I was out last night when she got in. She called me from work to tell me that she was leaving, and I was in the pub (having a fruit juice). I just needed to get out the house. I said I was angry yesterday, and she picked up on that in my voice and when I came home. So she was asking me what was wrong, and I told her that I didnt want to talk about it. We then proceeded to talk about our days. I told her that I had confided my sitch in one of my work friends. (She has told me that some of her friends in work know) She asked me about what this guy said, and I replied that he was surprised and had no advice. I have asked the same questions about her friends (W doesnt seem to mind those questions). She was a bit quiet, but we still had our conversation whilst cooking. I told her that it would help me to have someone I could talk to about this every day like she has, it means I wont feel the need to talk to her so much about it. So she said OK.

Tonight I am going for 0% takl about us, and over the weekend too. Unless she brings it up. That is my goal for the next few days.

I have booked us a trip to the theatre for Valentines, rather than buying a gift. I think she will appreciate it. She may complain about saving money, but hey!

Cheers

Steve