It does get easier. When I first started DBing I didn't know how long I could do it. I would get frustrated after a few weeks and backslide. After about two months I was able to start DBing consistently. I just keep reminding myself that he waited 9 months for me and I was once acting much the same. We have been very slowly building our relationship. We are not yet at the point of recommitment but we are good friends and just last weekend he talked about being open to the idea of getting back together sometime in the future, but is not ready for that now. I do have setbacks. My DB coach told me that there will be occasions when things will seem to progress then he will back away to let me know that all is not forgiven and ok, but to not be discouraged by this.
Just tonight I felt confident enough to suggest the intensive with Michelle at first he said no, but did not bring up the reason he did when the Bomb first dropped, because he wants a divorce. Then he said he will think about it. So I do have setbacks but the steps forward are slowly coming to a point that they occur more often than the setbacks. I wish it could be easier. He hasn't filed and is open to getting back together so let's stop playing games and work on our marriage. I am willing to take it as slow as he wants, but it just isn't that easy. I hope that we can all be success stories and we can give hope and support to those in the same sitch.
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
