Know that there is an extreme eternal conflict that goes on inside a person that is in willful sin and hears a message like that one. You may never see evidence of that battle externally. It is happening though. I promise you that. One can sit in rebellion and self-righteousness for a long time. There is not one thing you can do to speed up this process. For now, your wife is like an unbeliever. So the scripture that refers to an unbeliever being sanctified (set apart, made holy) by the believing spouse applies and indicates to you your role in this battle. You are to stand in the gap and intercede on her behalf. You have to make sure that whenever she sees you, she is seeing Christ's love. She can run. And she will. But she can't escape Him. Know that.
Look up Faithful_husband's story.
Yours reminds me of his.
He and his wife are reconciled.
If you can't find his old threads, let me know. I may not be typing his name right.
