D9 finally talked to STBX tonight. She hasn't wanted to talk to him lately. I have encouraged her to talk with her dad about how she doesn't want to go to NJ to visit him and ow. I have been trying to reassure her that it will be okay and that I understand she misses her dad and she needs to go with an open mind, she might actually have fun.
Anyway, she sobbed most of the conversation. He said he would listen to her, from where I stood, it didn't sound like it. He has always had a tendency to get frustrated if you didn't agree with him. During MLC he just gets nasty. D9 was scared to talk to him because of this.
It went on for about 10 minutes. She sobbing and trying to explain to him that she just wants to see him by himself, without ow. He told her she needs to get used to ow, that she (D9) had a great time while she was with him and ow last week. D9 said that she had "sucked it up and pretended" while she was with them. She told him she was scared of making him mad at her, that she doesn't want to see where ow lives or meet her family. And that she is scared to go because she has never been that far away from home before. Oh, yeah and that she considers ow a stranger and she doesn't like strangers.
I asked D9 how it went. She said he used his mad voice. She said I told her to talk to her dad about how she feels and she tried but he still got mad at her.
Then he talked to D5. D5 came to me and said "dad told me to work on D9. That she doesn't want to go visit and I need to help him."
I swear I wish he would step up and be a DAD to our kids and stop with shoving ow down their throats.
