I'm sorry about the pains. That must be very hard to deal with. What has worked with me is to institutionalize the kiss. It started about 10 months ago, my husband came over to my side of the bed one morning to kiss me goodbye before he went to work. I was very surprised, and he said he was doing it as a 180 to see if it made our relationship better. (OF course it did.) So then about 6 months ago I started making a point of kissing him hello when he walked in the door. Again, there was a little conversation the first time because it felt awkward. But that has gotten to be a habit. Now just this week, he rolled over to go to sleep and I said, "Don't you want a goodnight kiss?" So we kissed, and it was awkward. But the next time will be more comfortable because he'll be expecting it. So just let her know that it is a normal part of the day, the goodnight kiss, the goodmorning kiss, the hello kiss, whatever.
