Update:

H came home from work a bit later than expected. He had been called into his boss' office. Boss says he doesn't think H has been giving him 100%...maybe more like 80%...jeez, do you think the long lunches with MOW caught up with him? Boss says H does a great job but should put more effort/time into what he does. Wants H there all the time, behind the desk, cranking out the work product. H has to meet with clients frequently and Boss thinks maybe he isn't always out doing that....????hummmm...I wonder????

I'm not saying that H doesn't deserve this...the old H never would have tried to get away with anything...but H now, in his present state of mind...this doesn't surprise me.

Of course I was sympathetic...H was remarkably calm about it..but you can tell he's seething underneath.. Told me he'll start looking for a new job tomorrow. Unfortunately this wasn't in the plans...he was going to wait until he finished school in 6 months before he started looking for something else. This job wasn't the dream job...it was a stepping stone kinda job while he was finishing this degree...so there won't be any love loss....I am worried though about him trying to switch careers, without the degree being done....in this economy. I think the rejections he may face may be too much for him to bear.

oh....H just called (break from class) the anger is building! He's ranting and raving...wishes we were in a better financial position that he could just go in and clean out his desk tomorrow...Thank goodness he realizes we cannot afford to lose his job right now without something else waiting in the wings. He must of talked for 15 minutes about how he's getting screwed again and how he's so sick of everyone else telling him what he can/can't do. He's doing the work of two guys (which is true because the another guy left about a year ago and H picked up the slack and has kept it up all this time) but hasn't had a raise or review in a year and a half (which is also true). He's on the warpath!

Pray for us guys. We didn't need this added stress to our sitch.

Oh my...what next?

BA


Me:43
H:48
M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs
2 kids
ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07
H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08
Affair continues
Back home but not emotionally