LS, you are doing 90% of the work right now, in your R and just in life in general, it sounds like.
Did I suggest already that you check out A Woman's Guide to Changing her Man (another by Michele)? I bet you'd find some strategies to help, but even more importantly, she could explain much better than I can why sometimes the effort is unequal and it's okay.
Another thing I thought of while driving around this afternoon is that sometimes people have to consciously decide to increase their connection with their sexual side. Most men think about sex a gazillion times a day (except for the LD ones, I guess), while most women (again, there are exceptions) don't. Deciding to think about sex/read something sexy/whatever gets you charged up a certain number of times a day (can you set an alarm on your watch?) may mean that when a chance for sex comes up, you'll grab it, because it will be much less effort to switch gears - your juices will already be flowing, so to speak!
I like the phone call suggestion too and agree that the more satisfaction your H is getting at home, the less likely it is that he will be spending weekends away.
Still, I remember how furious I used to get when my H told me that he 'needed' to play golf on the weekends. It's hard to know why some men (and perhaps women too) just don't realize that life has changed, once there are children in the picture.
