Ahh, diversion! Excellent Tom. I was thinking of trying some Solution Focused/Oriented/ DBing stuff in these situations: "has there ever been a time when you felt good about your body?" (Looking for exceptions) "How did you make that happen?" or "Let's say tonight you go to bed and a miracle happens, tomorrow when you wake up you are happy with your body. How would you know this miracle has happened? How would your life be different" or better still "Hey, did you see American Idol last night? There was this large woman who could really sing. I thought she'd get chosen but..." or even better "could you pass the Doritos, please" Yes, diversion.
Well, tonights adventure was a video and discussion at my church. D14 arranged to go to her dance class with a friend and therefore I didn't have to drop off or pick up! Works for me. I had another nice surprise today, an old co-worker called me and she would like to get together, so we're gonna try to arrange a get together with a few other old co-workers. It was nice to hear from her again! Hey, I want to share my new therapy for depression, I call it "The Bee Gee's Singalong Therapy". My co-worker came to my office today on break and started bitching about work, I asked him "is this what you want to do with your break?" he said "NO" so I suggested Bee Gee singalong therapy. We put on the Bee Gees Greatest hits CD, he requested "Staying Alive" and we both sang at the top of our lungs in a high pitched nasal squeal and ended up laughing and dancing around the office. When break ended he said "Wow, I really do feel better". Trust me, you can't be depressed when you singalong with the Bee Gee's, it's not possible, but remember you have to do the high pitched nasal thing to make it work. Give it a try DBers! You won't even remember your S's name when you're done Btw, the guy in the next office did come over to say "WTH are you two doing!" but that is the only side effect I know of to this therapy.
Ooh, ooh, ooh stayin' alive, stayin alive'. Oh yeah, that's finished, sorry. Anyway, today was a big crisis at work! I went over to our other unit and found OSB in the front lobby feverishly spraying water on the office plants. I greeted her and she turned to me, eyes bugging out of her head, and she said "the plants, they're dying and I'm in charge of them, I don't know what to do!" OMG, she looked like she'd just found a headless corpse in the lobby. We discussed the options to waylay the impending plant deaths, as though I have any friggin clue! At one point she was actually jumping up and down "I told my boss not to give me the plants because I've killed every plant I've ever owned and he said this was my opportunity to change that life long pattern" Poor OSB, I really did try to keep a straight face, I've seen this little woman take on guys twice her size and put them in their place, but office plants...well, that's a whole different ballgame. Yes, the social services system is just an enigma inside an enigma, a complicated...blah blah blah, you never know what assignment will greet you on any given day LOL. Anyway, I didn't tell any of the guys about this cuz they'd just razz her about it and I think she was really seriously concerned about the whole plant thing. Hey, when you're new at a job any assigned task feels like a major responsibility! I was gonna suggest that we collect the dead leaves, roll them and smoke them at lunch hour but I held back the urge, it may have been a comment lacking in empathy, unsuitable for the moment. Well, tonight I am off to a prayer meeting at church, I'll put in a good word for those plants as they head off to a better place.
Btw, I did tell OSB that no one gives a sh!t about the plants and that's why she got the job of caring for them, so not to worry about it! I also asked a female co-worker, who knows about plants, and she said "Whatis you didn't say anything stupid to her, did you?" I told my co-worker how I held off on the leaf rolling comment, she said she was "glad" but "surprised" at my restraint. I'll pass on my co-workers plant care suggestions tomorrow.
Is that a hair product to combat male baldness? How about a little sprinkle of Muriel's remains, could that help? Sorry Muriel, that was tacky...will this effect our date tomorrow night? Hey, when you go to church for a prayer meeting and the lights are out and the door is locked does that mean that the meeting was cancelled or did the rapture come and I got left behind?
Well, apparently D14 has been messing up at school. She hasn't been handing in assignments since Christmas, the teacher called W and W called me. W said she talked to D at lunch and this is what W said "I did my usual freaking out and ended up screaming at her" Now, she said it in a way that said "here I go again" she wasn't proud but seemed to be feeling somewhat ashamed. D says she doesn't know why she hasn't been handing work in, she just doesn't feel like doing it. Teacher suggested that D14 could talk to a counsellor at school, D says she doesn't need to. So, Sunday W and I will sit down with D14 and try to discuss this situation. W finally feels that maybe this is due to our separation. Who would have thought! Really though it's good to see W at least being willing to look at and accept the idea that this isn't all roses. Right now I'm sitting here with tears rolling down my cheeks, I feel like I just want to pack my stuff and move back home. The thought of my babies suffering is just so upsetting. They don't deserve this and part of me feels like I want to just go home and take the sh!t for my kids. D10 is also afraid to go to sleep overs and be away from mommy! This hurts so much, I think I'm just gonna sit and cry. My babies are hurting and I can't do anything about it!!! Btw, I won't pack my stuff, it's just how I feel right now. I know it will pass.
It is the thing again.. It is okay. I am right there with you. Look at it.. and take it on. You . . YOU can do this and you are going to come out of this thing ship shape. I know my sitch is different.. but it is all the same feelings and thoughts... and I am feeling YOURS.
