Dom - I like your posts and cac's too. I can't tell you how overwhelming my life is right now. I do try to pay attention to H, but as was noted - there are times on the weekend when D is napping that I have energy and could be enthusiastic and...he's not home!
hmm.. you wrote that on the weekends, he is "out flying/hunting/golfing"...
Does he carry a cellphone?
betcha if you called him during those times, with, "if you were home right now, I would really love you to .... right now", he would mysteriously spend a lot fewer weekends away
That is, presuming that you didnt stop feeling that way when he was actually around. A sure way to kill that positive possibility from his side, would be to never feel that way if he spent his weekends at home. (which may be why he now doesnt any more?)
You might not be in the mindset to "allow" yourself to feel relaxed and horney when he is around. If that's the case... some people might say that you need to "give yourself permission" to feel that way.
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I don't know if it always falls this way, but I feel like I'm doing 90% of the work to get our love life on track and he's doing 10%. Then he wonders what I've done because the results are either temporary or minimal. Some support and encouragement on his part would have gone a long way, but that is not his style. His style is to dig in his feet and throw a tantrum.
Instead of a puppy, perhaps I should treat him like a toddler?
well, if he's acting like one... seems appropriate to me
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
