I have been reading through your post and they have been a big help to me. I love the talk about faith and Gods will.
I have been married to the love of my life for 25 years this June,she filed for D in Nov and we have been seperated since Sept.
It's really hard to understand,we are both christians and do still attend the same church,we actually sat together last Sunday. She knows that divorce is wrong but plans on doing it anyway,I do believe she is MLC,she 42 and talks about wanting to runaway/ There have been no affairs or abuse,we have two great kids,I just really don't get it.
We get along great,we are going to dinner tomorrow night,she just says she has lost that in love feeling and needs to move on with her life.
I am not giving up on her or our marriage,I'm still believing that God is going to convict her and wake her up to the reality of what she is doing.
Last edited by HHIF; 01/31/0811:29 PM.
Married 28 yrs Seperated 6 mths Rec D Papers 11/24 W Canceled D Moved Back Home 3/1/08 2 Kids D23 and S16 Trying 2 Put R Back Together
That's the best place for her but I tell you from experience, the enemy doesn't mind sitting right beside a MLCer as they are being fed the Word. I was one. I will also tell you this though, he is not omniescent and he just doesn't realize she is being given the tools to kick his butt!
It is amazing how he works,I didn't even know that she was coming to church last Sunday until she walked in and sat beside me,and it just so happened that the sermon that day was all about family,marriage and doing things Gods way instead of the worlds way,he talked about God can restore any broken relationship if we will just let him.
What a perfect message,I wanted to keep nudging her,like did you hear that,but I didn't I just kept looking forward and listening,I know she heard what was said.
I'm really trying to understand about detaching,I am giving her space and not pushing any R talk,but I feel like she is to comfortable with our current sitch,she goes to work comes home to her house and kids,I see the kids almost daily and then she ask me over for dinner on most weekends.. It's like she doesn't miss me and thinks we can just get divorced and everyone will be all friendly like we are now and she will have freedom to do what she wants with who she wants without feeling guilty,all though our S12 already told his mom that she would be committing adultry even if she does go through with the D.
Last edited by HHIF; 02/01/0801:49 AM.
Married 28 yrs Seperated 6 mths Rec D Papers 11/24 W Canceled D Moved Back Home 3/1/08 2 Kids D23 and S16 Trying 2 Put R Back Together
Know that there is an extreme eternal conflict that goes on inside a person that is in willful sin and hears a message like that one. You may never see evidence of that battle externally. It is happening though. I promise you that. One can sit in rebellion and self-righteousness for a long time. There is not one thing you can do to speed up this process. For now, your wife is like an unbeliever. So the scripture that refers to an unbeliever being sanctified (set apart, made holy) by the believing spouse applies and indicates to you your role in this battle. You are to stand in the gap and intercede on her behalf. You have to make sure that whenever she sees you, she is seeing Christ's love. She can run. And she will. But she can't escape Him. Know that.
Look up Faithful_husband's story.
Yours reminds me of his.
He and his wife are reconciled.
If you can't find his old threads, let me know. I may not be typing his name right.
Thank you for taking the time to talk me through my meltdown of how to approach that issue. It worked out much better than I could have ever anticipated.
His niceness to me.......well, let's just say it's refreshing.
HUGS AGAIN WOMAN!!
Amy not post.....phbttt.
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