When I come home, it's a different story. I feel almost worthless as a wife. I feel great as a mom! But I don't feel sexy, wanted, desired, as a wife. As I'm sitting here thinking about how to raise my self-esteem, what comes to mind is just forgetting it all and working on myself. But when I do that (which I've tried in the past), that's when I grow distant from our relationship, when I focus on myself, and when I'm "done" w/ our marriage. I don't want that! I want it to work.
ksuer - so strange, I could have written those words and I'm a LDW! Recently, at my suggestion, we have agreed to take turns intiating. The intiator gets to decide where, what, when. We are also going to take turns doing something intimate - be it a bath, massage, whatever. I don't know if this would work for you guys, but I already feel less pressure and less like a failure.
