Sorry to hear you are in that situation, I am in a similar predicament and can relate to the pain. Even OM is now in another country. The thought of him being intimate with my wife, doing her in her favorite position or the sound of her moaning is unbearable. I relived that thought by writing this post but I am doing an intense effort to grab another thought any other thought.
Easier said than done, the image sometimes still creeps in.
Me 42 W 27 Married: 6 years Together: 7 years Daughter: 3 years Wife away 2/16/2007 - 12/27/2007 (School in a different country) EA/PA began on Jan 07 (found out 12/29/07) Papers served on 2/6/2008
