I did the same thing last Friday on the phone. I was trying to listen, but couldn't resist and turned it from her anger to my issues.
This was a mistake because I wasn't LISTENING to what she was saying, but instead trying to defend my position and get her to "see the light."
Hang in there. Old habits die hard and we have to work very dilligently to re-wire our brains to change our patterns. Consistency and actions are what is needed.
Be confident, work on your life, do your best to ALWAYS be upbea and stay away from the R and M discussions.
Be strong. This is only one of many slip ups you'll have on the way. Take them in stride, learn to stop them as quickly as you can and shift gears back to DBing. They aren't deal breakers, but learning experiences.
Go for it and be patient. You can do it. You will be successful if you keep at it.
