Mrs. Cac But for me they are real. I have no doubt they are real for you.
I have had my own personal list of things that are real for me from FOO (limiter resources) that seem like a big deal to me but to other people, it is a non-issue. Most of my things fall in the area of conservation vs. over use/squandering of resources/time.
I also remember some of the boys in the group home having fairly extreme sensitivities/likes/aversions. That is another group of the population that I don't want to consider right now.
Me not having much growing up and being in the Army, where you did or else (both places), caused me to see what a sensitivity was, verses a like/dislike.
I also compared student's lives while I was going to college. Some had very little resources and a lot of responsibilities while others has plenty of resources and the students were able bodied/well educated as individuals, had people helping them with their college lessons.
I was thinking, the ones that needed help had the least amount of help and the ones that should do OK on their own, had help.
Maybe that is different than being sensitive but it relates to balancing needs, wants, and resources to me.
the good news is that since I've been confronting some of my other issues, the sensitivities aren't as much of an issue as they used to be. That is wonderful to hear.
... when a person is unhappy I think the sensitivities take a place front and center. They color everything. I know that to be the case.
Maybe BB is searching for something and that is why she buys things all the time. In BB's case, advertising creates a want in her mind. Advertising drives so much of BB's wants.
Of course, now I want to buy stuff for S4, but I try to be sensible about it. I was thinking about you being a grandmother just now. You might be most grand parents; buying things they wished they had money for when their kid/s was/were little. It is fun. Just a heads-up thought.
I try to corral my desire to buy him stuff into buying books for him, because I figure he can't have too many books. I don't remember much about being 4. I do remember 5/6/7/8 and it was cars, trucks, and trains I wanted.
One of my friends got a Bible of all things from his grand parents when he was 6. We just looked at each other and said "how dumb,“ but that is how some 6 yr. old’s think.
I don't remember anyone reading to or with me till I went to school so your situation is different.
About scrutinizing your posts, I see why you do it. You have Cac to consider. Your educational history implies you have the skills to write well, so you want to live up to that standard.
What to say and what not to post, is something that varies with different people. Sometimes I put too much detail in my posts and to some it might look like I am disloyal to BB or I expose the black sheep part of myself. Then sometimes I think about posting some information and think, "will someone think I am bragging/complaining?" No, better leave that out.
Then there is a vague social rule to disclose about the same amount of information as others do but not until some unspecified time limit. I don’t have that task mastered as BB tells me I am clue less about what to and what not to say.
I have the cloth washer finally going again (error codes frequently) so have to attend to that chore.
Keep posting. It is OK to not be perfect.
Look at me, 64 and still I don't have all this R stuff down pat. The good news is I havent been on either TV program, Cheaters or Cops.
The good news is I havent been on either TV program, Cheaters or Cops. 
