When I commented "Wow - what happened to the stereo (boom box) he said - you told me you hated it." "I said what my internt has been & he said, "You said you hated it. I took care of it." (very case closed. That kind of reactiveness leads me to feeling like a whiner and a b*tch. ....
wow.. that's really nice. another example of how much he cares about your feelings.
I dont think you're a whiner or a bitch.To me;
whiner = "complaining about trivial stuff, or pointless stuff" bitch = demanding things you dont deserve.
What you are complaining about is not trivial. and you DO deserve it!
I read what you wrote since my post yesterday. you kindasorta replied indirectly, but not directly. so wondering if you either skipped over it, or missed the point of interest to you that i was trying to make.
sooo.. i'll try again, in a slightly different way
I saw you wrote that you dont think your husband will suddenly turn over a new leaf by reading a few verses of scripture. I completely understand your lack of optimism there . Thing is though... what do you have to lose?
Are you in any way afraid of a serious negative reaction, if you asked your H, "have you read/ what do you think the following scripture lines mean?"
Seems to me like it would be a fairly "safe" thing to do. So, if it helps.. great! and if it doesnt... no loss.
If you won a chance at one of those "free throw" giveaways, where you get one basketball toss, and if you make it in, you win a free car... even if you are TERRIBLE at basketball.. wouldnt you try anyway, even if the chance of you getting it in, is tiny? 'cause if you make it... GREAT! and if you miss... well, so what?
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My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
Love the illustration. Know what -if something happened like your analogy we would probably get to IHOP witout hurt feelings, without incident. With sex it is kinda like I keep making the toast and waiting for him to make the eggs.................. I shoulda told him that I could get eggs at IHOP any time I want a long time ago. My bad again.
Fearless,
Thanks - guess I'm not the only one that was underwhelmed by the Secret but if it helps someone else then great!
Burg: Aren't you going to suggest that she start acting like a bit of a wildcat in the bedroom?
Hairdog
Given that her H is an Ohio State fan, I thought I could send her a Buckeye necklace. She could greet him in the bedroom some night with nothing but her Buckeye necklace on - maybe that would do the trick
I also might be able to find some old Papa Joe's T-shirts. Hmmmm Karen, when was your H at OSU? Ask him if he ever visited Papa Joe's or Out-r-In while he was there.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
Dom, this is at least your seventh post advising Karen to bring up with her husband biblical passages you've suggested, dating back to December 30.
Let's put Karen on the back burner for a second and talk about Dom. Others are not required to do what you want them to do. Even if you're sure it's to their benefit with no benefit to you. Even when you're sure there's no downside for them. They can do whatever they choose. Accepting that will make *your* life freer and better. Giving them the freedom to choose as they will even when you're sure you know a better choice will improve *your* life. Releasing your need for *them* to do what *you're* sure is in *their* best interests will lift a burden. This post I'm writing is not about Karen. I have no doubt that she can handle it if you post the same thing to her on seventy times seven occasions. This post I'm writing is about helping Dom. You have a control issue.
You expend much effort getting others to change or approach things differently. When will you put that effort into yourself? The Bible verse I'd like you to ponder is:
Matthew 7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Stop WaitingFeel EverythingLove AchinglyGive ImpeccablyLet Go
Tooo funny. If I wear the Buckeye necklace with a pair of heels and feed H some homemade buckeyes (peanut butter/chocolate balls)it might just do the trick - maybe it is what I have been missing all along!
If I wear the Buckeye necklace with a pair of heels and feed H some homemade buckeyes (peanut butter/chocolate balls)it might just do the trick
If Raven reads this, I think he's going to ask why I haven't done that yet! Although if you can believe it, I do NOT own a Buckeye necklace. Hmmm might have to spend $5 and buy one in September:)
I started at Ohio State in 1987. When was your H there?
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
84-75. I would be the first to admit that we were outplayed by your guys.
I can't think of a better team to lose to, or a better time to lose. Last year's defeat to Oral Roberts happened too early in the season. This loss, right before tournament season, will likely be used by Coach Self to motivate them to push harder in the coming weeks.
Did I mention that my W just got an offer to teach a class at my alma mater next fall? She's meeting the dean today and I asked to inquire about basketball tickets for adjunct faculty. If she reports back in the affirmative, I may have to re-think the whole "deliver the message" talk.
