lwb, you know I will support you with anything you choose here. I guess I am concerned because you are NOT sleeping. you are very affected by his presence and from his constant disrespect. as an outsider, its easy for me to say that I do advocate separation for you because you have given this a very good shot, trying to heal while living together. but he is not looking to heal right now, lwb. he will not go to counseling, he will not consider retrouville, he will not consider even committing to working together to try to save the marriage.

its eating away at you. and your h is NOT changing, not in the slightest. he may have broken it off with ow, but he is stll playing the blame game, and has already shown that fidelity is not high on his list of priorities.

again, I am not telling you what to do, I don't mean to, I guess I'm just worried about you.

take care of yourself. I don't care where he is as long as you are doing that. and if you need a sleep aid in order to get some rest while he is still living there, please go that route. lots of folks here have gone that route for a little while.

(((HUGS)))

mwah! love you, my lwb.




Last edited by SallyM; 01/31/08 08:12 PM.
M-41
H-38
M-10 years, T-14 years
Bomb-PA 3/19/07
Separated-6/7/07
Piecing/h back home 5/08
S-6
S-4
D-4

"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"

-Mary Anne Radmacher