not just passively waiting around for the guys I date to sex me up. It's just basically effortless to initiate sex with them.
Ahhhhhhhhhhhh those were the days!!
LOL- I think the best way I could answer the jist of Ket's question would be to say that if the effort/compromises I had to make in order to get sex in a relationship reached the level that the sex started to become cr*p sex for me, I would step back from pursuing/initiating sex and make sure I was maintaining decent boundaries sexually and in general in the relationship. For instance, there is no way in hell I will ever put up with some of the kinds of sexual interactions I had in my marriage. For instance, sitting 4 feet apart and watching porn with a man so he can get turned on enough to f*ck me. Not gonna happen. I would rather date a new guy every 3 mos. for the next 30 years (120 men!)than ever find myself in that situation again. I will have sex and I will be treated with respect and affection or I will be back out on the sexual highway with my monkey thumb in the air and I won't look back.
Last edited by MJontheMend; 01/31/0807:59 PM.
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