Well I blew it again this morning, w called I was having a crappy morning and when she asked how I was doing. I told her not very well and then proceeded to start discussing our situation.
I did catch myself and changed the subject after a few minutes.
I know Dumb guy, dumb guy....
She did call back about an hour later to discuss some travel arrangements for our daughter and that went well. I was upbeat and didn't dive off the deep end again...