I am so confused, not sure what hand I am playing

[Snow White]

That is what my H says about the talking too, that they talk as little as possible but it is hard to believe. I really believe that while there may have been minor flirting before that this EA really only took place starting in Dec and they did cross over to a PA at one point(that has been acknowledged). Maybe because I am a very emotional person and I am not supposed to think of her viewpoint only mine but if someone told me a month ago that they loved me and couldn;t wait to be with me forever while trying to help me leave my husband, and then a week later said nevermind I love my wife and my family and we are going to counselling those were just words I would have a hard time maintaining a normal working realtionship. I just wonder if the conversation ever took place.

The second part, I am with you I am trying my darndest to make home a great place and I think I am doing a pretty good job. It is more the constant reel in my mind I am dealing with.

I really think the next few weeks will reveal a lot in whether we are going to heal or fall apart. We are leaving for Disney on Saturday the 9th, it is a 20 hour drive, with my parents and D4. We will be there for a week and on the day before we leave his parents(currently wintering in Florida) are coming to spend the day with us (none of them know we are struggling). This will be the first time since I found all the info about this OW that he has gone more than 1 full day without seeing her (he never has 2 days off in a row). It may help him over the hump; as I really see these outrageous number of phone calls as an obsession; or maybe he will realize that she is what he wants.