I'm not a huge lingerie fan. My H has actually bought me some things that are pretty but comfortable and very down to earth. I was rather surprised! Anyway, I think part of my discomfort is not liking my body. Pre-baby I was a size 8 and now I'm a solid 10. I'd like to get back to the 8 but between the thyroid and stress (I am not handling all the stress well these days), it is a struggle to maintain my current weight. I could try wearing something to bed though - that might be fun.
As for communication, moving his hand doesn't generally work as it might be he needs more or less pressure. Last night, when he lingered in one spot too long I tried moving his hand but then he moved it to where he thought I wanted it which wasn't the place. I am lousy at communicating and he's lousy at listening. Great pair, eh? When I moved his hand then everything progressed too fast.
I think I will try both staying in the moment and the fantasy and see which seems to work better for me.
Ever cried after sex? I did a couple of times. One time I remember I had tried to plan this romantic evening and he started falling asleep on the couch. I was persistent and he said fine let's go and it was a wham bam thank you mam. I felt like I could have been a blow up doll. It seemed so impersonal. So, that's why I said last night was not the worse and I don't dwell on the bad times as I want things to get better.
I was excited when it seemed like an O would happen last night (as often it has not) but then it was so darn disappointing. I wonder if the physiological part will improve when I get the psychological part stronger?
