You know what else has helped? Becoming a mom. I've had some OCD tendencies like putting things in the cupboard a certain way and dishes in the dishwasher a certain way and have given cac a lot of crap in the past about not doing those things my way.
Then one day S4 put something in the dishwasher and he picked his own spot to put it down. And I realized that the thing would still get cleaned even though it wasn't where I would have put it. Not only that, but I didn't want to discourage him from learning to pick up after himself or make him think that he wasn't doing it right.
Then I realized that I had been doing the same thing to cac.
Having a child has really given me the opportunity to examine myself and grow.
