Further Adventures of Sock Monkey Girl

[MJontheMend]

Interesting. For the sake of the argument, when was the last time you were in a relationship where the man wasn't wanting to jump your lovely bones on a constant basis? I'm not counting STBX, unless early on. But since him, you haven't been with anyone for long enough for the initial blaze to die down a bit, have you? How often do you suppose you would go out of your way to initiate in the absence of constant initiation from your partner? (This assumes everything else in the relationship is fine and you just tuckered him out or he's overloaded elsewhere or something.)

I don't think that there is a simple answer to the question. Actually, it's often pretty hard to say who initiated sex when both parties are generally in favor of it. For instance, I might claim that FSG initiated sex by saying "Unzip your pants." but he might claim that I initiated sex by saying "Nothing." but I might counter-claim that he initiated by asking me what I was wearing under my pants etc. etc. etc. back to who initially brought up the topic of clothing.

GP could probably claim that I mostly initiated sex in our relationship because I would usually be the one to cross over the line from affectionate to monkey in our physical interactions but he was the one who would end up muscling me down the hallway so, once again, debatable. With NG it was pretty much spontaneous mutual combustion. Also, if I review my youthful sexual history, I don't really remember a great deal of difficulty with the sex part of my sexual relationships.

Anyways, I think if I was in a LTR with a reasonably HD guy (and I should note that I have no intention of forming or maintaining a relationship with any guy who isn't. Absolute deal-breaker for me.) I would initiate whenever I was the one who thought of it or just because I happened to be horny. Kind of like I might be the one to suggest going out to eat at a new restaurant sometimes if I was with somebody who was generally in favor of food and going out. Usually FSG and I talk at night but I called him one morning to initiate sex rather than chat. I'm really not just passively waiting around for the guys I date to sex me up. It's just basically effortless to initiate sex with them.