let's look at it this way: You wanted him to end contact but now you say "If he just shut off contact...heartless...character flaw"...
Careful, you told him what you want and now you say that if he gives it to you he's "heartless"...how heartless is it to cut her off? NOT!!!!! He's not doing her any favors by leading her on, even if it's JUST email etc...Heartless is having 2 R's and not committing to either ONE!
Bottom line: You want him to STOP!
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby