cemar - Though I hesitate, I have to ask. Did you bring most of this on yourself? You sound so much like my H. He brought up D on our honeymoon. He didn't talk to me for half of it. Our problems really started at engagement, but the wedding really tipped the scale.
Anyway, my input to this whole thread is, if you really want change in your marriage - whether you are HD or LD - you have to change something. What you are doing is obviously not working. I read a book that said if you change 10% of what you are doing it will make a huge difference.
The shared spaces concept is fascinating and realistic. Even moreso with children because then not only are you sharing space but you are creating space for them. What kind of space do you want your child to grow up in?
Is a HD/LD R possible? Yes. The polarity needs to be broken down and compromises need to be made, and if you like the rest of your M, you'll make them.
