I think that's where my concerns come in: I haven't seen the true remorse from him, maybe never will...but unless/until he faces just how seriously he hurt me and sinned before Heavenly Father, will there be real change?
My religious views would have me phrase your question in a different manner, but the core issue would still be the same. I think the answer is no, there cannot be real change until the WAS faces what they did at an emotional level, and empathize how it affected the LBS.
However, it should not be an expectation of ours, nor should we try to influence an apology, or wait for one. I'd like to think that if our spouses continue on the path towards health, then at some point the stars will align, and they will be able to honestly look at what they did, and connect to the pain that they created for others.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
