I liked your email approach a lot. You said she replied already and is angry you brought it up and I am curious how she replied. Did she email you back, call you, etc.? I am asking for a reason, not just morbid curiousity.
PF
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
Trust me an email is only a very tiny start. I have written many impassioned emails to H, a few short, not so sweet ones and all to little avail. You might be surprised just how easy it is to ignore an email. Good luck though.
This may be obvious to you, but to me she is clearly hiding from herself by keeping herself busy. The busier she is the easier it is for her to not confront herself.
I have only one child and for me that has been overwhelming at times, but the fact that I'm a SAHM with just one kid has made it easier for me to confront myself and pay more attention to my relationship. I've told cac that we might not be making progress if I WOH because that would be a lot for me to deal with.
Many of us have tried the "back off" thing when our LD wives felt "pressured." In my experience (and every other person's experience I've read about), it doesn't work, because the LD spouse will either come up with some new "tasks" that make them tired, or some other reason why they can't ML, or -- as my wife did -- they say "even tho you didn't say or DO anything, I still FEEL pressure."
Good luck. If you figure it out, let us all know.
- Chocolateeyes
Oh yeah, way past that. One thing I have figured out, it is not really about any one thing, it is a basic issue with their personality. More on this later..
I liked your email approach a lot. You said she replied already and is angry you brought it up and I am curious how she replied. Did she email you back, call you, etc.? I am asking for a reason, not just morbid curiousity.
PF
Emailed back. I said nothing about it afterwards, but waited up to see when she would respond. Sure enough, she began the convo with "why do you keep bringing this up?" and a list of reasons why a decent sex life is not happening. Agan, more to follow when I get time today.
Trust me an email is only a very tiny start. I have written many impassioned emails to H, a few short, not so sweet ones and all to little avail. You might be surprised just how easy it is to ignore an email. Good luck though.
Karen
Oh no, these don't get ignored. What did get ignored was the elliptical, meandering one. I see a lot of these posted on this board, I sure wouldn't bother reading them. You have to be direct and to the point.
