I use hokiness on purpose. I have read all the authors you name and then some. I KNOW that positive thinking has value and without it a lot of the things that I do well in my life would not happen. However, I had trouble with the Secret because I found it to be another version of stuff that others have done better (thus, the term hokiness). I also found myself to be really resistant to it which is unlike me. So, I examined my resistance and found that it was a reflection of my feelings of despair, misery and every other thing that wasn't getting me anywhere so I am choosing the "hokiness" (tongue in cheek).
Also, I have never been a very good complainer. I always find the positives and move on. It has been hard to do so about my SL because I keep looking for things from H that he just won't seem to jump on my bandwagon and provide (and I just stand there with my hands in the air and say "Why not???"). So the standing up for my POV has ended up equated to complaining, nagging and such in my mind and I have resisted that too. Yeah - it is time for anarchy. My red silk dress, red briefcase, erotic literature illustration was about this. I may just start vamping around in lingerie again too - whether or not H notices. I stopped when he looked right past me but that was my bad because that stuff is for ME (and for him if he likes it, if he doesn't fcuk him).
