Is this a thread where we can bitch about what our h's or x's have left us to do?? God knows I am tired of mentioning the broken sprinkler pump that he has been going to fix for 6 months on my threadssssssssssss in MLC. OK so you tink, no biggie it's just a sprinkler pump.....not true not true. I live in South Florida and it DOES NOT RAIN in the winter. My house looks like a dust bowl. Fine! I bought one of those oscilating water thingies.....good Lord I must drag it around for hours until everything is thoroughly watered. Obviously I am not doing a good job of it. Sorry, I'm slightly obsessed with this sprinkler motor. BUT! there is a good thing to it not working uh huh....we have this anti chem rust container that autmatically goes into the sprinkler motor that keeps the rust off the house and sidewalks.....LOL. BUT! Before it broke he had stopped paying for the anti rust....my house is easy to find, it's the orange one with orange sidewalks Ok thats just one little blip but I'll not whine about it all at once ok??
Hmmm.......he needs you to think of him as dead huh? Ask him to cough up the Life Insurance money and you MIGHT be able to.
I think you should not speak to him for awhile. During this time you need to go to an attorney and find out exactly what your facing. Fair is not always fair. As of right now, he should STILL be paying the things he paid when he was there. There is this word called abandonment. If he does not continue to pay and just leaves you with it all, he's abandoning you and all he is entitled to. Do your homework.
My xh left oct 05....divorced finally july 11 07.....guess what? He still pays all the bills at this house. ALL OF THEM. He's the one that walked. He has to do this until the house is sold. I put it on the market once.....for six months. We did not get an offer he agreed to. So it's been of the market for 8 months now. Yes, this does seem very unfair to him to do this, but he's the one that walked. My name is on this house, he usually uses the deductions for his taxes as he makes 20xs more than I do. Normally we file seperatly, pay mine, and he gets back a large amount. He can either do the same this year, or let me claim half so I can get a return.
No, life is not always fair, especially for the LBS. But we do what me must in order to survive. I was told that as long as I do things the right way, to not fight and ask for more than what I was entitled to I would get what I needed. I did. I prayed to God daily to not let me fall into the emotional trap when it came to talking business with my x. I took on 2 personalities. I always greeted him with a hug, a kiss and a I hope your doing well added with a remember, this is not what I wanted.
See an attorney, get your facts, then you can start talking numbers with him. Knowledge is power sweetie. It does seem like your h has been talking to someone. You need to also.
HUGS HUGS HUGS
Jeanette
Oh, I still have a few Christmas decorations up also But ya know what? SO WHAT? hell, I live here.
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
God knows I am tired of mentioning the broken sprinkler pump that he has been going to fix for 6 months on my threadssssssssssss in MLC. OK so you tink, no biggie it's just a sprinkler pump.....not true not true. I live in South Florida and it DOES NOT RAIN in the winter. My house looks like a dust bowl. Fine! I bought one of those oscilating water thingies.....good Lord I must drag it around for hours until everything is thoroughly watered. Obviously I am not doing a good job of it. Sorry, I'm slightly obsessed with this sprinkler motor. 
BUT! there is a good thing to it not working uh huh....we have this anti chem rust container that autmatically goes into the sprinkler motor that keeps the rust off the house and sidewalks.....LOL. BUT! Before it broke he had stopped paying for the anti rust....my house is easy to find, it's the orange one with orange sidewalks 
Ok thats just one little blip but I'll not whine about it all at once ok??
