Are you SURE he is out there telling women these things. If he has just had his fingers burnt by a psycho b!tch then would he be out there again so soon looking for another potential psycho?
I completely understand why you don't want to ML with him. I couldn't ML with my H knowing/thinking that for him it was sex rather than ML.
Have you explicitly told him that it is because he is out there saying these things you can't be intimate with him? I know you probably have, I just felt the need to ask the question.
I am glad that OW's true colours have now come out. I feel that your H is just lashing out at you because he hurts and he knows exactly which buttons to push to make you hurt. I know the pain he is going through SHOULD make him more understanding of what he has done to you but it just doesn't seem to work that way. They say you always kick/hurt the people closest to you because you can and you know they will probably forgive you. Think about the grief we gave our parents when we were teenagers - and yet they still loved us.
You can't be a doormat though, and he needs to see that you are hurting too. His response though when you were 'channelling' NoCodes makes me think that he needs to see a reaction from you, so I don't think you have lost anything by letting rip at him today. If I was you, I wouldn't be the first to apologize if that would be a 180 for you.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
