This may be obvious to you, but to me she is clearly hiding from herself by keeping herself busy. The busier she is the easier it is for her to not confront herself.
I have only one child and for me that has been overwhelming at times, but the fact that I'm a SAHM with just one kid has made it easier for me to confront myself and pay more attention to my relationship. I've told cac that we might not be making progress if I WOH because that would be a lot for me to deal with.
