When she gets home you need to give her an incredible amount of space. She is expecting you to pursue don't do it.
I am concerned about your sleep issue related to OM. When your sub-conscious (your gut) and conscious are in conflict, that can lead to a high level of anxiety and then depression. Bottom line, you do not have peace of mind.
Therapy can help you restore your balance when you are going through a difficult time such as now. Talk it out and trust your gut.
What fish says. I think it would be a good idea to act a bit indifferent when she comes back. I'm a fine one to talk, I have a hard time doing it, but in my heart I know it's the right thing to do.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Thanks for your thoughts guys. I am very upset this morning just thinking about seeing her when I pick her up. I know that she misses me but I am afraid what might come out of her fog riden mouth. I have donw a great job with the kids the last few weeks and the house ahs never been cleaner. I am sure she will appriciate it. We go to see the theripist together next Tuesday. I will not pursue but I am sure i will get a huge hug and kiss when I first see her which is going to break my heart. Your thoughts?
well she come home today. She called at 6 last night to say hi. Sounded like she had a great time but was ready to come home. She wanted to talk to the boys for only the second time since she left. They were not home. I told her taht everything was great here (PMA) and the house was in very good order and clean and everyone was well behaved when she was gone. She said "oh good, then I can plan my next excape". I asked her what she meant and she said her next vacation. I kind of took it wrong. I am reading way to much into everything. I feel good today, slept well and got a huge order yesterday at work. Thank God things are going well at work! Pray for me and think of me at 6:00 PM tonight when I pick her up. I must be strong, patient and non confrontational.
You did not take that comment the wrong way! "Then I can plan my next escape," that was a shi**y thing for her to say after being away from her family for 12 days.
Be careful brother, this is a very touchy sitch.
Personally, I would have had her picked up via car service. That could be a real stressful ride back home.
STOP with the huge hug and kiss bit, that is what is going to get you in big trouble. If you are not careful, this could get real ugly tonight.
Pretend that you are picking up one of your buddies from the airport.
Yes what she said word wise was probably the wrong thing to say. But what she meant by it was probably "wow thank you for making sure things were taken care of I appreciate it now because I don't have to worry about these things."
This is why it's so important not to over analyze and often analyze at all.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
I think you are right. I can't wait to see her and i hope i get as lucky as Fish did today. I truly am scared. There is no way I am not going to cry when i see her.
Do not cry. Does she want to come back to someone who cries or someone who can control his emotions and be strong? I know exactly how you feel, but advise against it. You will push her away.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
thanks man. Pray for me. she called and texted three times today and we had a great conversation. I need to be strong and act as though I am picking up my best friend at the airport. Inside I am dieing, I can't wait to see her. No R talk, no OM talk no nuttin. Cheers,
