Lil to Mrs. Cac Also, do you feel like you post and no one responds specifically to your posts? That happens sometimes. I often feel like my posts bring the conversation to a dead stop. I often feel the same way. Sometimes I don't reply to your or someone else’s post, because it looks like to me, that I reply too often to that individual’s post or post a "but" or "me too" reply.
NONE of your posts has EVER struck me as stupid. Mrs., Cac, I see some good things in your posts that can only/mostly come from someone that was LD (relative term) and it helps me to understand the LD's POV and BB's POV some.
Like HD said, doing something to improve the M makes you a member of the HD’er club. Not doing anything but proving that no/little sex is normal is depressing.
Concerning my situation, for me the sensitive thing is like I have to walk on eggshells so BB's world is in an order she likes. I still don't have a complete understanding of the sensitive thing, but see where you are coming from and that helps me a little. That is another issue.
Honestly, not to worry. My posts all contain typos because I type one handed while pumping milk for DS 9mos. If I don't post then, I don't post. My posts are often less than enlightening. No biggie. Also, the HDWs on this forum have almost all experienced periods of LD. How will some of the fellas ever learn why a healthy woman wouldn't care much about sex if they never hear from one who doesn't. Using some of the crazy broads here (like me) for an example would make it sound normal to be a sex maniac.
How will some of the fellas ever learn why a healthy woman wouldn't care much about sex if they never hear from one who doesn't. Using some of the crazy broads here (like me) for an example would make it sound normal to be a sex maniac.
Lol. I agree. I think it is much better to have both the LD and HD perspective on this board, both men and women. Women like me, Karen, or dare I even say, MJ? have all had periods of LD. We are not sex maniacs! And we are not any guy's dream either. We all have issues. We are trying to figure out our sh!t as much as the LD's. This is hard work...marriage. It's hard for everyone. LD or HD.
Mrs. cac, for what it's worth, I feel exactly the same admiration for you in your journey to reclaim your own sexuality that I just posted to karen about. LD, HD, chocolate, strawberry, let's call the whole thing off ....
You are on the side of the angels in my book.
If it helps at all, no matter how opinionated I no doubt sound, I have to fight self-censorship too, even on an anonymous message board. My urge toward self-presentation is that ingrained. Posting here has been very good for me, and I'm sure the same applies to you .... just hit Submit and we'll all be idiots together.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
I thought of starting a thread called "The Stupid Thread" where all of us can post things that we feel are too lame to go anywhere else. I could fill it up all by myself.
Anyway, mrs cac, you're ahead of the THOUSANDS of lurkers who read these boards, hide in the bushes, and never stick their necks out at all!
Thank you Lil for the vote of confidence! Obviously I don't have a lot of confidence in myself and it's something I am trying to work on.
Posting here and expressing yourself seems to have called up a lot of questions and conflicts within you. THIS IS GOOD. This is something for you to explore, inquire into, and not avoid.
Yes, I know. This is one reason why I've continued to post. It is part my effort to stretch myself.
Also, do you feel like you post and no one responds specifically to your posts? That happens sometimes. I often feel like my posts bring the conversation to a dead stop.
YES! Often when I post it seems that my post just hangs out there and bring the convo to a screeching halt. But then I have realized that this happens to other people too. There are plenty of people here that post and don't always get a response.
I feel better that I have put my thoughts and fears out here. Although I read so much about people here, I always felt that people really didn't know me and I know that it was in part because I don't post all that much. I guess I do have trouble letting people in and I'm aware of that too, so being here helps with that. I guess the fact that I've been uncomfortable means that I've been growing a bit.
You guys really are a great group of people and I think fondly of you.
Concerning my situation, for me the sensitive thing is like I have to walk on eggshells so BB's world is in an order she likes. I still don't have a complete understanding of the sensitive thing, but see where you are coming from and that helps me a little. That is another issue.
I know the sensitivities can seem like just an excuse. Back in the day I know cac used to get impatient with it sometimes. Believe me, sometimes I wish that I didn't have these sensitivities, because they can make life difficult sometimes. But for me they are real. They are part of what make me, me. But the good news is that since I've been confronting some of my other issues, the sensitivities aren't as much of an issue as they used to be. What I'm trying to say is when a person is unhappy I think the sensitivities take a place front and center. They color everything.
Maybe BB is searching for something and that is why she buys things all the time. The thing is, though, you can't give her what she's searching for, Lou. This is something within herself that she has to find for herself. I realized that I changed after having my son. To be truthful, having him in my life has filled an emptyness that I used to fill by shopping. I wasn't a true shopaholic, but I used to buy a lot of small stuff, stuff I didn't need. After becoming a mom, I realized that I had no desire to do that anymore. Of course, now I want to buy stuff for S4, but I try to be sensible about it. Mostly I try to corral my desire to buy him stuff into buying books for him, because I figure he can't have too many books.
LFL, Thanks! I'm so glad that everything continues to go well for you and MrLFL.
Karen, I have enormous admiration for you. I have wanted to say that so many times as I've read through your threads. You amaze me with your ability to juggle so much. So, there you go.
Ket, I noticed that you weren't a prolific poster and I actually wondered why. I really enjoy reading your POVs, so please keep posting. Yes, self-censorship sums it up for me too. I just figured out that I spend so much time on my posts, rewriting, sanitizing, trying to make sure there isn't anything that might cause people to disagree with me or find fault with what I've said. Hmm. Interesting.
We all have issues. We are trying to figure out our sh!t as much as the LD's. 
