Concerning my situation, for me the sensitive thing is like I have to walk on eggshells so BB's world is in an order she likes. I still don't have a complete understanding of the sensitive thing, but see where you are coming from and that helps me a little. That is another issue.
I know the sensitivities can seem like just an excuse. Back in the day I know cac used to get impatient with it sometimes. Believe me, sometimes I wish that I didn't have these sensitivities, because they can make life difficult sometimes. But for me they are real. They are part of what make me, me. But the good news is that since I've been confronting some of my other issues, the sensitivities aren't as much of an issue as they used to be. What I'm trying to say is when a person is unhappy I think the sensitivities take a place front and center. They color everything.
Maybe BB is searching for something and that is why she buys things all the time. The thing is, though, you can't give her what she's searching for, Lou. This is something within herself that she has to find for herself. I realized that I changed after having my son. To be truthful, having him in my life has filled an emptyness that I used to fill by shopping. I wasn't a true shopaholic, but I used to buy a lot of small stuff, stuff I didn't need. After becoming a mom, I realized that I had no desire to do that anymore. Of course, now I want to buy stuff for S4, but I try to be sensible about it. Mostly I try to corral my desire to buy him stuff into buying books for him, because I figure he can't have too many books.
