have not read your whole sitch. Don't know all the facts or who to "blame/fix", etc. But calling your spouse names in front of the kids during a divorce is called "parental alienation". It hurts the cause of the cusser, so to speak. (So, I guess if you want to call her a $%^&*I(*&^!!!, you have to stay married..)
Anyhow, take the high road and you'll never regret it. I'll go finish your thread now, but wanted to mention that. Take care, hang in there, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016