Wow it's been that long since i posted? Wonder if Saffie ever found that hamster?
More of the same but worse?
The latest is that w is going to see om on the 13th (he bought her a ticket). She hasn't told me yet, i've known for almost a week. d20 told me and bil confirmed. It was stuped to look but i did and cant change that, browser history showed searching for victoria secret stuff, i didnt open any of these pages hurt enough anyway. dont think i will get her anything for v-day.
cell bill came last weekend, $495.00. she brought up money later and i asked if she saw it she said no. She asked if i changed plans, i said no. we have 3000 min four phones, with out om i would be on lower plan. normal 3000 min bill should be $230 these days. I told her in the past i was no longer tracking our minuites. That evening she said she would start keeping track.
Tues i went to court house to get property tax info for taxes. I told her i was going there for that on mon. While i was at the tax and business office my cell rings. w-are you at the court house (she drives that way home on her lunch break) me-yes w-what are you doing there me-stuff for taxes w-i thought you where devorcing me and not telling me
inlaws where down last weekend they stayed at bil's house. I was not part of this but d20 and bil said inlaws and w had a huge argument about her and om. Fil told her if u want to persue om then end your m first. Mil told her she couldnt come on D.C. vacation they where planing with inlaws, w, and sil. Every other year they go to D.C. to visit family and sight see. They took d20 one year and d17 another. This year w and sil are supposed to go. When i heard of this i told sil to have mil and fil make up with her because ((If there is one thing i have learned about all this its that w it going to do what she wants and them fighting will prob push her to om even more)). They made up and were on speeking terms when we had supper over there that night. sorry if thats unclear.
Money talks. w wants to sell the camper and get tax money. Split it. me move out. she would use her money to pay half of mortage pmt along with her earnings. i could use my half to help with appartment and bills also. In her words this is so she can do what she needs to do, see this thing through.
one question to her after she said om will prob come to town after im out was, Will he be in our house? w- yes at least to meet the kids me- ...got nothing... I think the imprint of my lower jaw hitting the floor is still there.
Another question to the order of me having the kids half the time seems fair? Wife said she would fight that and left the room. I need to go to a l again, the one i saw earlier is suspended for 2 months, falsifying something, it was in the paper. I'm going to look for a woman l. I contacted one and she has no openings till march. i need to know if me moving out hurts my chances with our kids. Maybe legal seperation (so its documented isnt such a bad choice afterall)?
Otherwise I'm going to see a c again tomarrow. Ive been writing down things all week as i think of them.
When we went to first couples c app wife went with, not to work on us just to go.(in the car after i asked if om new she went and she said no). she made indvid app. she went to that and tomarrow was supposed to be couples app, she is not going. I told her i was going anyway.
Gal - mostly fishing on the river with the kids or bil or with miller light. Doesnt cost much to do that even if there not biting.
pma - i try to be positive and upbeat around w (i think it freeks her out sometimes). I give her compliments mostly texting.
I have been catching up on others sitches and praying for all of us. I try to learn from everyone and hope i can help others even if its just for a smile.
Very tired, good night
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Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt