I don't have a drinking problem, actually I'm pretty damn good at it. I have a sober problem. I can't deal with life sober, on life's terms. So far I have found this to be pretty true. By the end of the day I recognize I'm tight and thinking about it, so I get to a meeting. Sorta funny how that works.
So, that stops you from drinking. What are you actually doing to 'treat' the problem of 'not dealing with life on lifes terms'?
Going to a meeting doesn't treat it. It stops you from drinking. We all agree that drinking is 'bad'. AA has a 1% success rate. so, obviously by itself, it doesn't address the real issues behind why people drink. It just gets them to stop - for a while. Some for a long time. But are they happy, or just 'sober'?
Why do we hear things about people who are 'sober' but still angry all the time? They are a 'dry drunk'. Well, don't you think that's because they took away the MEDICATION but didn't treat the PROBLEM?
Real studies are starting to find that there are a lot of reasons people get addicted to substances. Some are biochemical, some are psychological.
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We each have our own issues though, and I can't begin to guess what yours may be, that is why you only will have to admit them to god and another human being, if you take the AA route, as it should be.
WHY will he have to admit them to god and another human being, "as it should be"?
You mean these steps:
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5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
You forgot step 13: "After beating ourselves up, and letting our self esteem fall even lower because we have done nothing but self flagellation, we did nothing to actually discover WHY we drank in the first place". We just admitted that we we immoral, defective and powerless. Then we stopped drinking out of shame.
Here is my idea: Take responsibility for your life. LEARN the reasons WHY you drink. UNDERSTAND that you are someone who CAN BECOME ADDICTED to alcohol. Take action.
I completely disagree that focusing on being 'broken, helpless and defective' is the way to 'treat' alcohol addiction. Finding out WHY you need this substance and treating THAT problem, while also knowing that you must avoid alcohol is a better way to treat this issue.
