Hey there are lot of us here facing the same issue. Our S's are pretty good at pointing that out. HeII they have there own problem, they have put with it, enabled it, my W married me with it and she is a drug and alcohol C'er. Go figure.
I can totally understand the defensive end of things as well. I'll tell ya what has made me rethink my assessment on the issue, something else said to me by my sponsor.
I don't have a drinking problem, actually I'm pretty damn good at it. I have a sober problem. I can't deal with life sober, on life's terms. So far I have found this to be pretty true. By the end of the day I recognize I'm tight and thinking about it, so I get to a meeting. Sorta funny how that works.
We each have our own issues though, and I can't begin to guess what yours may be, that is why you only will have to admit them to god and another human being, if you take the AA route, as it should be.
It is good to see those positives from the wife, she is slowly tearing down that castle wall.
