I'm going to say something you... and it is going to come out in good ole' Corri fashion... sigh.
Okay. If there are two polar opposites on this board, it is you and I. You are SOOO caring, so giving, so nurturing... so KIND... it just really irks my azz that someone like DOMR... who isn't even IN am SSM can come along and spout JESUS/BIBLE at you.. when he very CLEARLY has not gone back to read your history.
So. I stand behind my 'fck you' statement to him. (No offense, DOM R, you just wear my azz out and I can only take so much).
Yet, Karen, you come in and SOOOO diplomatically say thank you to me, and defend HIM all in the same paragraph. I scratch my head, and wonder how you actually pull that off.... and sit and say to myself... 'fck me, how'd she do that?'
And then I realize... it's because... you wouldn't say 'fck you' if your mouth was full of it. You might say all kinds of OTHER things... but not that.
In the absence of you being able to say 'fck you,' your H has crowded out your cow to become Mr. Cow... he's being Mr. Host to anyone who comes along... and you are being Mr. Karen, saying... 'when am I going to get fcked...???' but... still being all Nice Cow about it.
Honey. At some point, you are going to have to do a reclaimation project over your territory... kwis? And it is going to require a Lioness "FCK YOU, BACK OFF FROM MY DOMAIN." You are SO accommodating and nonconfrontational, that this man has horned in on your territory... so YOU are this non-sexual being who hangs out on the edges, having babies... and then THIS GUY takes it all over because you don't STOP HIM.
I started thinking about this tonight, after I sent you that link to the "Interview with God," thing... and like... an hour after, I thought... jesus... whoa!!!! Karen, being devotional and relaxed and beauty and whatnot... has NEVER, EVER been the problem... I've never known Karen to be anything OTHER THAN those things...
so I'm sitting here, think, think, thinking... now... I know you are not the other extreme (Corri)... but yowzers... you have a Mr. Mom on your hands because you aren't just a tad bit MORE Corri... kwis? And not in the bedroom, either... it's in all other facets of your life... simply because... you DON'T want to rock the boat... it IS your second marriage... you DON'T want to fail at number two... so... whatever it is he needs to do... okay... that's how HE is... that's what HE wants...
Uhm. Hello. Karen? Is there a Karen in the House? Is there a Karen BOUNDARY in the HOUSE?
YOU tell him when to cook. YOU tell him when to clean. YOU tell him when to fetch kids, take out garbage, hold the baby, call the neighbors for a night over, when he can or can't watch Sports Center, etc., etc., etc.,... because YOU are Ms. Cow.... and ALL of that falls under Ms. Cow domain...
But that isn't what happens in Karen Household. HE is the one who calls the shots. Isn't he?
And that is okay, if the two of you have agreed upon it... but you haven't. He just DOES it. And you don't stop him. You couldn't say 'fck you, back off," if your mouth was full of it.
You are diplomatically, very nicely... screwing yourself out of a sex life.
