I can see why you feel discouraged, frustrated, impatient! But so many good things are happening in your situation that are so encouraging. Your H is being very receptive to the sex positions calendar!!! Do you know how many people here would KILL to have that kind of joy, laughter, and connection with their WAS??? Of course it sounded cold for him to text "I don't know", but it sounds like he is just being honest with you. "I don't know when" doesn't mean "I'm not coming back" or even "I don't want to come back". It just means he doesn't know exactly when he will be ready. So dear sweet Kalni... can you try the Michele Filter? Before you text or say or write something to your H, can you ask yourself, "will this move me closer, or further away, from my ultimate goal?" You were talking about the picnic, yes? Can you focus on your picnic? It sounds like your H is really peeking out of his impenetrable castle, but don't chase him back inside. Of course you need reassurance... of course you want him back right this moment... of course what he is doing is illogical, wasteful, selfish, hurtful, ridiculous, etc, but he has to go through it before he can come back to you with an open heart. It sounds like it is only a matter of time, but the more you push, the longer it will take. You can do it, Kalni. I truly believe in you. And even if you make mistakes, and we all will, you can do it.
I wish I could give you a big hug, and we could sit down and have girly talk and eat those cheese pastries! Or have a pastries-for-muffins trade!
