Cleaning out the Cobwebs

[cat03]

you know what blew my mind yesterday? that my h said that the thing with the ow was a secondary thing, that the thing he was more confused/troubled about was our R. You could've knock me down w/a feather.
The A was big, the ow damaging, but all in all the A was a symptom of something bigger in the A. Perhaps that's how your H's views it (perhaps not) that he is addressing the "big issues" and that the A doesn't hold a place in him anymore. Men tend to minimize/not understand the hurt the A/op causes in us women.