Tostada Nearing the Hot Oil

[BAW]

Tostada-

Keep showing her that you think she is beautiful. Don't go completely overboard, but you telling her every once in a while will do. Eventually she is going to start thinking that you really mean it because you are still saying it even though she is trying to be a b**** and doing all of this.

Your marriage wasn't awful, just the last few months because the tension made it that way. You could have been the perfect H and she would still find a way to justify what she is doing...don't let her saying that get to you. As for the hearing, it is just a little step in the divorce process....if you do end up leaving the house, she will start missing you. Right now you are around so she isn't getting the chance. You are in the house right now and in the back of her mind she knows it and it is comforting, but a couple of days after you are gone, she won't have that anymore. I am not saying move out, by all means fight it, but take comfort knowing she will miss you, she just doesn't know it yet.


As for Valentine's Day, I think what would get to her most is if you got whatever you got for her for Xmas (a necklace right?) and put a note on it saying something to the fact of- "I bought this because I knew it would look beautiful on you (brings out your eyes, etc)I bought it for you out of love, and I would really like for you to have it no matter what happens between us." This hits four points home to her..she is beautiful, you think of her, you love her, and that you will still care about her no matter what happens. Just get a single red rose, the gift with the note and put it somewhere that she will see it when she gets up. You will be giving her the attention she was looking for...it won't make everything better, but it will show her that you can be romantic, and women LOVE that. I don't remember the words exactly, but you know the song by Kenny Rogers, where the wife wanted little phone calls for no reason, a rose just because...(sorry I can hear the music but not the words in my head lol), that is what women want.

Sorry for all the advice for Valentines Day, most of the men at work come to me for suggestions, so I am use to doing it.

Hope this helps!

B