Thing is, we could make it work together now because I see her true self, and I know mine. Whether or not she ever sees that is unknown.

Frank,

I respectfully disagree with your thought process here. Why?

Because "we" could make it work because "I" see her...

Where is her role in your relationship? It takes two, Frank. YOU alone, cannot carry this relationship. God knows, you have tried to do that for at least the last two years. And much longer than that if you think about it.
It doesn't work. You know that. Your W has to be willing to participate 100% in order for it to work.
She has not been willing or able to do that in the past. She is not willing to do that now. YOU cannot fix this by yourself. All you can do is fix yourself.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope you were able to use some of my suggestions from yesterday and that you had a productive day.

Hang in there, Frank.

Spitty

Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest.
Mark Twain