Hurtin, Your W is pursuing you and you're struggling with thoughts of if you really want her.... I agree with LWB, this is probably common, I know I've had those thoughts, too.
My H's A is over, and we're working on our M, but there have been moments when I've had those thoughts, too. Is this what I want? It sure was when I was trying to DB and "get him back" this summer. So now that I have it, why would I have those thoughts????
Perhaps part of it goes back to all the hurt they caused us. We have a lot to forgive, huh? And many who DB reach the point where they realize they'll be ok without their spouses. I seem to remember you about being at that point. So now that she wants you back, you now have to de-program yourself of those thoughts.
I agree with LWB, take your time. And, congrats that the new job is going well!!
