Sue, Just gave hugs and prayers to LWB, now it's your turn. You do deserve a smoother ride. I know you would rather save your M but it doesn't sound like your H's heart is there -- at least not right now.
If he thinks he can say all those nasty things to you, put you down, etc. and expect intimacy with you, he sure doesn't respect you, or even understand you AT ALL! I think I would have laughed in his face.
Like everyone else on this board, you're an amazing person. Don't ever let your H, or anyone else, try to tell you otherwise.
