First off, yes she had lost a signigicant amount of weight, she had gastric bypass surgery about 2 years ago. She started seeing the counselor about this some time around August, she had seen her before once or twice but she started going about once a month in August to "work on some things".
The therapist was the one that started "digging deep" and placed the unhappy with the marriage theory. The therapist was the one that suggested initially to w to consider a trial seperation.
You stated that "I didn't say anything that struck you as a woman in a MLC". But everything I read about MLC points to it very strongly, maybe I am missing something or not clearly stating all of the issues.
As far as how she dresses, etc. She has always taken great pride in her makeup, hair and how she dresses. She is very excited about wearing different styles and being able to wear smaller sizes. She is also coaching high school cheerleaders so I think the young and free thing is hitting home.
The attention/finding an OM is a definite possiblity, and one that I have been struggling with. I have asked her about this when we were "discussing" things, and she said that it is not about another man it about her finding herself..
You stated that if we heard her side of the story it would be very different. That is absolutely true. I am not by any means trying to say that I was perfect, cuz I wasn't. There are things that I have said and times that I was impatient and downright crappy to her. Those times haunt me now.
I try to act normal when I am around her, happy go lucky, joking etc. My normal personality is joking, happy, generally in a good mood. I have a hard time acting like this around her, I know that I have to work on that. I am sure this doesn't sound good but there is a part of me that thinks if I act happy around her she will think this seperation thing is ok. Silly and wrong, I know.
Is she worth the fight, I believe she is. I know it will be a long road and that the end result may not be what I hope for, but I have to try.
