Thanks for the advice, but that won't work. He has told me that before I decided to move out here with him that he is not willing to do that.
I have very conflicting feelings on this. H is a coward for not putting his foot down with OW. He still lets her contact him (though he did claim he has told her many times not to contact him, but she still does) And he responds. He always responds, to anyone, even people whom he has not seen for decades. If H will just shut off contact with OW like that, after all the romance and such that they went through, in my eyes, H would be a really heartless person. If that's truly his character, do I want a husband like that? I am a coward for not setting my boundaries clearly I am being patient for letting him work through his MLC
So you see, very conflicting feelings. I go from "wait it out" to "just give him a deadline" every few days.
H was super nice yesterday. To be objective, he is trying, and compared to at the peak of the A (when he was so cold), this is miles better. People on this board also range from "give it time" to "give him boundaries". Oh, piecing is so hard.
