Thanks to both of you. We are going away for a long w/e trip this w/e. Its a long story, but we booked it months ago and it was to be a romantic w/e, no kids, at an allinclusive. We couldn't get out $$$ backso we have decided to go anyway, not talk R stuff at all, and just have fun with each other. I don't want to rock the boat before that, bu as somm as we get back, then look out!