(SM) agree with Fearless that I need to reinforce, in some way, when she exhibits the kind of behavior I like. I have been stingy on praise, and I think it is something that would make her feel loved (a la 5LL).
I don't know if you've read The Way of the Superior Man but he's got a very short (1 page, essentially) chapter on this topic that you might find interesting. Click on: TWotSM...then search for the phrase "praise her freely" and click on the link to page 61.
(Lil) What IS your deal breaker, SM?
As long as he's being honest with himself and with her, I don't think he has to define an absolute line in the sand. He can say, "I'll know it when I see it." That won't work for somebody fused who's into excuse making but I think it would work for SM at this point.
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