Dear Hope, I agree with Jack and Amy [and others] who say that your husband is still in MLC. If you look at the time lines - not for newbies, but helpful at times, Depression and withdrawal CAN last almost as long as Replay, and that is before they get to acceptance. Your h is stuck for now, I think, in coming to final acceptance of who he is and what he has done. You are still IMO, getting his 'version' of events rather than the real emotional truth of his actions. The versions change as they go through MLC, their narrative changes, but what he is saying makes no psychological sense to anyone but himself. which is one of teh cardinal characteristics of MLC. I do not say this to encourage you. It is just the way it seems, to me.
But it is your choice always in what you do. It is long hard road, and you are reaching a point of peace.
